What to do when you are tired of being a Gentlemen.?

I have always tried to live my life in respectable manner. I have always treated women with the utmost respect and it has gotten me nothing. I have tried to act like a dick but its just not in my nature to act like that. After my last little experience it is getting to the point where i am starting to feel "numb". I can take it anymore. I hate being a gentleman but i cant be a dick and be disrespectful either. I know this may sound really pathetic but i really dont know what to do anymore. I little advice would be nice